Every bride seeks help on how to deal with problematic bridesmaids. Some problems occur when the bridesmaids have never met each other and they can find it extremely difficult to get along. Being a bride, it can be really stressful because all of them matter to you and you cannot just let them be on their own on your special day. Moreover, there can also be other unforeseen issues that can arise like a problem with the dresses, vendors showing up late, or even issues with the venue. Here we will discuss what you can do when your bridesmaids are being less than helpful.
Problem 1 – They Don’t Like the Dress
We all come in different shapes and sizes so the “one-style-fits-all” doesn’t really go over too well these days. If you have chosen the dresses of your bridesmaids and they are not comfortable with it, you should think of a quick alternative. You may have already invested your time and energy to find the best available dress, but if they don’t like it, there is no point in forcing them. What you can do is arrange an alternative dress that they can wear. Let them choose the style and you decide the color. Of course, they should respect any limits you may have like no strapless, or nothing that comes above their knees. In the end, they will feel more empowered and their confidence will shine through because they chose their favorite dress that will complement the event as well.
Problem 2 – I Don’t Want to Work
You should know that your bridesmaids are not your maids. They are your friends and they are here to share your happiness. You should try to treat them accordingly and ask other family members to attend them with care and concern. If they are asked to work time and time again, they will get annoyed and will want to leave as early as possible. Moreover, you can always include a male friend on your bridesmaid’s list because they will want to feel useful by helping out a little extra and keep things normal.
Problem 3 – Bridesmaids Don’t Like Each Other
There are chances that the bridesmaids may not like each other. In this case, what you can do is define areas where they will be working and limit their interactions to taking group photos, being in the ceremony and entering the reception. If you have a wedding coordinator, have them act as a buffer when they foresee any possible conflicts arise. It will take some of the pressure of you and make the rest of the bridal party calm so that your event will happily continue without any mishap. Just try to keep things simple as much as you can at your wedding ceremony.
Problem 4 – Bridesmaids Didn’t Show Up
One of the biggest problems that you may face is when your bridesmaids ditch you at the very last minute. All your plans are dependent on their presence and if they fail to show up, you can find yourself in serious trouble. For this problem, you should always have some backup. This is where you can ask your other friends to be ready for any kind of help that you would need.
These are some problems that you might face at your wedding ceremony. Using the solutions given above, you can easily cope with them and make your wedding ceremony a memorable one. If you like, you can also lean on the expertise of your wedding officiant to offer solutions for the ceremony, regardless of whether your wedding party is cooperative or not. After all, it is your wedding day and all of your family and friends are there to celebrate you and your future spouse.